Find a Grave (Owned by Ancestry), Seriously, JUST STOP Incentivizing the Creation of Memorials of the Recently Deceased

I’ve been horrified, as has any sentient being, about the massacre in Uvalde, Texas.

I’ve also been increasingly furious these past few days because the practice of awarding “points” by Find a Grave, owned by Ancestry, to people who create memorials is making an already horrific situation much worse for traumatized families whose members perished.

THESE CHILDREN AREN’T EVEN BURIED, yet a non-family member rushed to create memorials for them, including photos and other family details lifted from news articles and other sources! We won’t even mention the copyright violations that Ancestry/Find a Grave consistently chooses to ignore.

This vampiristic death-gathering and memorial-creating behavior isn’t limited to the Uvalde massacre, it’s Buffalo and other victims of mass killings in addition to people who die of natural causes every day.

The same thing happened with one of my immediate family members a few years ago, and I still remember the shock of discovering her via a “hint” in the midst of grief.

Before I continue, I’d encourage you to read Judy Russell’s blog article, Ancestry, this one’s on you, but come back here when you’re done. Judy is on FIRE about this one, and with good reason.

Ancestry’s Failed Policy

Ancestry’s supposed policy of showing limited information about a memorial unless the creator is an immediate family member obviously had a major fail given that Judy was able to take screenshots of the memorial of this recently murdered child.

After a rather loud and persistent outcry from the community, back in January Find a Grave decided to redact some information for 3 months after a death. Yet, the memorial remains in place for the family to find. Ancestry does NOT prevent the creation of these memorials for bounty points.

This situation should never have happened in the first place and has been ongoing with incredible foot-dragging by Ancestry FOR YEARS! It’s just in our faces again with the Uvalde and other recent high-profile mass murders.

Even with the photo and some information hidden, for now, the Uvalde victims’ memorials are still listed. The one above is the same child’s memorial as in Judy’s article.

Even after eventually transferring the memorial to a family member, the original creator is always still listed. Unfortunately, this practice of awarding points and forever listing the “creator” by Ancestry encourages and incentivizes “trophy hunting.”

Here’s an example from one of my immediate family members.

You can then click on the name of the creator or the “maintainer,” which is me in this case, and see their stats. Here’s mine.

Notice that in Judy’s original screenshot, you could see the Find A Grave identity of the person who created that child’s memorial. However, Find a Grave has chosen to “protect” that person in the redacted version by not showing the creator’s identity. So we don’t know who collected that bounty point.

This is not a new issue. Ancestry/Find a Grave has not and is not acting expediently to resolve the situation. In fact, the “situation” doesn’t have to exist at all.

Take a look at this complaint board about Find a Grave. These issues pepper the genealogical community on social media, day after day after day.

Why Is This Happening?

This occurs because Ancestry displays the number of memorials created by volunteers. Some people spend their time finding obituaries and death announcements and creating memorials for people as soon as they die in order to rack up points, like a game.

The problem is that finding your loved one’s memorial, often with incorrect information, created by a stranger is unexpectedly jarring, at best. Especially to discover that your family member was only a trophy harvest whose memorial was created hours after they died. Then, having to ask (sometimes beg an unresponsive person) for the transfer of their memorial to you, only to have the creator’s name forever associated with the memorial adds insult to injury.

I’m not referring here to a volunteer who lives locally and “takes care” of local cemeteries, like the person who created memorials for my parents months after they were buried, not hours after they died. Most of those people are respectful, kind, and pleasant to deal with. They provide their services out of the kindness of their heart AFTER giving the family a respectable amount of time. Those ARE NOT the people I’m referring to.

Those lovely local volunteers aren’t the mega-harvester people searching online funeral home listings morning and night for new points to score. That is NOT a service to anyone except themselves, and oh yea, Find a Grave/Ancestry who can then serve up hints to Ancestry subscribers and garner page views.

Ancestry clearly wants to keep those harvesters engaged but to the detriment of the actual genealogists who subscribe to Ancestry’s services. That’s a mighty high price leveraged on the backs of their customers. And let’s face it, sooner or later, everyone’s parents, siblings, or (God forbid), children pass away. Ancestry is rewarding people to further torture the grieving. Every grieving person needs a respectable amount of time and space. Ancestry, of all companies, should be sensitive to this.

What Needs to Be Done?

I’m not privy to any inside information, but I believe that originally Find a Grave, before it was purchased by Ancestry, began listing memorials and other stats to encourage volunteers to document and photograph cemeteries to assist genealogists. That was the original purpose.

However, that purpose has morphed into something very different. Ancestry has the agency, and responsibility to put the brakes on.

Ancestry needs to:

  1. Stop awarding points like trophies, at least publicly.
  2. Remove the name of the original creator when the memorial is transferred to a family member.
  3. Prevent anyone except close family members from creating memorials for minimally 90 days and I’d suggest a year.

I wasn’t done with my mother’s estate for at least a year and wasn’t ready to deal with seeing her photo and obituary online until then.

And if that was my child, OMG.

Who in their right mind would think that entering those massacred children into Find a Grave immediately was acceptable by any criteria? Any standards of decency? And why would Find a Grave tolerate this for even a minute? Death is traumatic for family members under the “best” of circumstances and it only goes downhill from there.

And this is clearly the worse of circumstances.

While the individuals who created those memorials before the bodies were even cold were insensitive, and that’s the best spin I can put on it, Ancestry is the only one who can, should, and has the responsibility to stop this. And they have, so far, been unwilling.

It’s time for every single one of us to speak up. Bloggers and influences as well as the rest of Ancestry’s customers. We can all be influencers.

Use Your Outside Voice

Ok, bloggers and social media people – use your voices. We have even more influence cumulatively, together, as a chorus, than individually.

I do need to provide a word of warning though, especially to bloggers and other professionals.

Ancestry is punitive if you don’t always write positively about them. They will pull your affiliate account if you have one. They will exclude you from influencer calls, meetings, and related events at conferences. I’m guessing Judy and I will be enjoying snacks in the restaurant while those meetings are taking place. I encourage you to join us. It’s worth it to do the right thing.

You don’t need to be a blogger to have an influence. Everyone has a voice. Here are several things everyone can do.

Ancestry’s CEO

Deborah Liu was named Ancestry’s CEO in February 2021. She can fix this with one call or email.

This would be a good Twitter thread to reply to:

Based on Deborah’s social media photos, she has children. Ask her how she would feel if her children were massacred, and some unknown trophy hunter created their memorial as soon as their name was available. Would she feel violated? Crushed? Robbed of the opportunity to provide that caring act for her precious family member when she was ready?

God forbid this would ever happen to Deborah or her family, but if it did, this problem would be remedied in about 30 seconds.

Deborah may be “mourning with them,” but she is increasing the grief of countless people by failing to remediate Ancestry’s company policy. Furthermore, she, assuredly, is not following the Golden Rule by “doing unto others.” As if just doing the “right thing” isn’t enough reason alone.

Here’s the Biblical reference, if she needs it:

Matthew 7:12 (International Version), “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”

Perhaps Deborah didn’t know before, but let’s make absolutely positively sure she knows now!

Other Resources

Here’s a list of other places you can place comments and make yourself heard!

Let’s be that squeaky wheel and get results. Be respectful, but be sure to remind Ancestry that you are a PAYING customer when you call.

Ancestry, it’s way past time to step up.

50 thoughts on “Find a Grave (Owned by Ancestry), Seriously, JUST STOP Incentivizing the Creation of Memorials of the Recently Deceased

  1. I already contacted them. I suggested that they put a limit that no one can put up a memorial until 10 years after a burial. This is a genealogy site, after all, not a recent news site. Makes no sense.

  2. I agree on the 10 year limit unless they are a family member. At the very least they they need to allow the owner of a memorial to delete it, no matter who created it. My mother died in 2016 and I hadn’t yet created a memorial as I was waiting until I could get back to where she lived and was buried to take a photo of the headstone. I will be back there this fall, and planned on taking pictures and creating a Find A Grave memorial then. Being a small town (about 8000 people) I didn’t think I would need to worry about people going after statistics creating a memorial in a small town. It turns out I was wrong. I recently found that someone local created a memorial for my father and my mother about a year ago. I practically had to pry the memorials from her, and only after threatening to contact Find A Grave did she transfer them. In looking at memorials in the cemetery for the past year, all are added by her, and in some cases she has photographs of the local obituary. Many are only weeks old.

    I contacted Find A Grave about 3 weeks ago asking that they delete the memorials, now that I am the owner. I haven’t heard from them. Their site says they *may* on a case by case basis. It is ridiculous that a the owner of the memorial I can’t delete the memorials and create new ones myself.

    I don’t forever want this statistic seeker’s name linked to creating memorials for my parents. They also lifted color photos, apparently from Facebook, that they added for my mother. They also typed word for word her obituary (which I wrote and paid for) to her memorial, violating my copyright. I was able to delete that, as I don’t want names of all her children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren in such a public place. It’s one thing to appear in a small town newspaper. It’s another to be on Find A Grave.

    If that person had any common sense at all they could see that I had created memorials for my grandparents and other relatives in the same cemetery that are adjacent headstones, and I was listed in the obituary, so if I had not created a memorial there was obviously a reason. Listing statistics for Find A Grave members needs to go, as does not allowing current owners to delete a memorial, because a statistic seeker created it.

    • I have decided that I will set up memorials for my parents before I leave the effing hospital when that time comes. They’re 94.

  3. Roberta, Thank you for enlightening me about *why* I haven’t been invited on those calls and in meetings all these years … lol. Honesty, integrity, and ethics have a price some aren’t willing to pay. The question I ask is, “Can any and all of us live without Ancestry and Find a Grave? They own the site; they make the rules. If we’ve proverbially come to the table with a reasonable request to respect the mourning (see the panel about ethics at RootsTech 2022 and its accompanying chat) and Ancestry has denied that request, does Ancestry own us or can we we walk away? Ideally we seek a win-win, but if not, those with integrity will maintain their position and cease to deal with Ancestry. I’ve been researching long enough to know that, although convenient, a subscription to Ancestry is not a necessity.

  4. Slightly different story, but I had a heck of a time getting someone to remove a memorial that had been created for a cousin of mine who is still very much alive! Of course, she only listed that my cousin was deceased, but no date of death. She had her listed with her husband who had, in fact, passed away some years ago. This person had created many thousands of memorials and had a bio that explained rather snootily that she was an “expert” genealogist and while she “might” consider suggested edits, in her experience, she was almost always right. I contacted her several times but she didn’t reply. I then contacted Find-A-Grave, and they wouldn’t do anything because I’m not an immediate enough family member. Finally, I contacted the person who created the memorial one more time, and this time she took it down. I’m glad she did. I really didn’t want to have to get my 93 year old cousin (actually, my 1st cousin, once removed – my father’s first cousin) directly involved.

    • I actually think I’ve seen the bio of that contributor. If not hers, then one very close.

    • The problem is, of course, that they have the power to hold your family’s or anyone’s information hostage, to their whims. Even if you get the memorial transferred, their name and “credit” is still there and there’s nothing you can do about it. Literally, nothing.

      • Roberta,
        You do understand that Find A Grave is a collaborative website, where everyone’s contributions are respected. That’s why you can’t remove the photos someone else added. Or the “flowers” they leave.
        Gary

        • Yes, of course I understand that. Many websites are collaborate and still have rules that govern behavior. If you look, they all have terms and conditions that govern what users can and can’t do. They can control this.

    • I am in the midst of this exact scenario right now with Find-A-Grave refusing to remove the memorial for a living first cousin. She had her name added to the headstone below those of her parents, in anticipation of ultimately being buried with them on her passing. My own parents are in that same grave and share the same headstone—a burial plot which I own and on which I had the headstone installed. But Find-A Grave says I’m not immediate family to my living cousin so they won’t remove her memorial and only suggest I request a transfer. However the person who currently maintains the memorial can’t delete it because she didn’t create it, so a transfer to me would not give me that capability either. And the two separate individuals who created it and transcribed it are shown as “Not accepting messages.” So is my only option to notify my elderly cousin (living in another country) that she is “deceased” and try to explain to her (a very non-techy person) the process to try to get her memorial removed?

      As a side note, my mother’s memorial in this same grave was added by someone just two days after her passing, by an individual who can only have lifted her details from her obituary. That obit did not, however, make any mention of burial details so how would he have known which cemetery to post it to? Her ashes were not even interred there and the headstone erected until over a year after her passing!

  5. This is why I have already created my own Find-A-Grave memorial. My wife and my daughters have access to my Find-A-Grave account.

    • When you create one like that, is it completely private until you publish it? If so, that’s a really good idea!

  6. THANK YOU for this article! Last year my Dad passed away at the age of 91. I already had a memorial for my Mom and her parents. A few days after Dad passed, I decided to go on FAG and add a memorial for him & connect to my Mom. I was totally shocked to see someone had already done it!! I was livid!! Not only did they do my Dad but based on the obit they added one for my brother who passed away in 2015. They had him buried in the same cemetery as my parents! He was cremated & his ashes sprinkled in the woods where he loved to hunt. I never thought to put a memorial up for him because he wasn’t buried but I guess I should have. I requested that the person give be control for both memorials but they only gave me Dad’s.
    A family should be able to grieve. It’s crazy that anyone can create a memorial based on obituaries that they see & read. How sad for those families in TX! I can’t even imagine.
    I did complain on Ancestry’s Facebook page & there were a lot of comments complaining about the same thing & their own personal experiences.
    Ancestry definitely needs to do something!
    Thanks for the information I will definitely use some of those links.
    Debbie

  7. Same thing happened to me. Good for you for advocating for action. Will be emailing/posting per your suggestion later today! Thank you.

  8. I agree Find a Grave should not post memorials for recently deceased and the creator should be a family member. However, how would Find a Grave know if the creator is a close family member? Personally, I think Ancestry should be designated a monopoly and be broken up.

    • They could at least ask and if they discover that someone lied, block that person from creating memorials. They could also look for pattern behavior electronically.

  9. I agree. We as a genealogical community may need to consider next steps if Ancestry does not take this seriously. I know I am.

  10. Roberta, I have been a member of Find A Grave for many years and have created some memorials and also have requested and received many more close family memorials. When my dear husband passed a year and a half ago, as you can imagine, the pain and heartache was so intense that the last thing I was thinking of was creating a memorial. But then one day, I think it was 6 days after his passing, I added his death date to the Ancestry trees I have created which he is in and prepared a memorial for him on Find A Grave, To my astonishment, like a punch to my stomach, I was informed that memorial already existed! I looked at it and realized the creators were indeed “bounty hunters” and had over 3000 memorials created at that time. I was furious, to say the least, that I wasn’t able to create this for my beloved husband. Although not published in the local newspaper, they had taken the entire obituary I had written, including his picture, from the funeral home and made the memorial. I wrote a message to them, then after I calmed down, I wrote another message which I actually sent. They then turned the memorial over to me, emailing me a message which I am sure was a stock one they sent to other bereaved family members who tell them how upset they are to find their loved ones memorial already made. This is obviously still a very painful issue for me and I hope that the suggestions made will be implemented by Ancestry soon.

  11. I had no idea but I also am outraged. My mother passed in 2020 and was cremated. Her remains were kept with us until after the funeral as we hoped to honor her wishes at a better time (with no pandemic). Soon afterward, I saw on Find A Grave a memorial for her with photo, obituary and place of burial! She was not yet buried, yet this person ASSUMED the place of her burial due to another family member being buried there. I was outraged and wrote a rather scathing email to the person who created it and also to Ancestry (where it was a hint). Never heard back from ancestry but the memorial at Find A Grave was thankfully deleted. Your article sheds much light on why this occurred – I had been baffled on why someone whom none of us knew would be motivated to do such a thing, now I know.

  12. I agree. I WAS a member of ancestry.com since September 2000. I had a tree of sourced 186,000 people there. Back in Nov 2022, 3 days b4 I needed to renew my yearly subscription, I was sent an email by ancestry.com that their terms had changed. I read through all of it and discovered that in 3 days they proposed that they would then OWN all my family photos I put into the tree but also own all the source records I had found over the years outside of ancestry.com. I wrote them a very nasty letter telling them that if they didn’t change this new policy that I would leave the site permanently. They didn’t so I erased the entire tree. Also, someone put a new memorial for my Mom, who had passed 2 days earlier, on find a grave. This was no one I knew It took about 6 months to get it transferred over to me. Luckily I was the only one in our family of 11 that saw this. If I hadn’t been on top of things errors would have been perpetuated..

    • But, how do you know that had not already made and stored copies of your pictures before you deleted your tree?

  13. The creator details are still visible in the FindaGrave app. Of the 21 memorials I found for the Uvalde victims, 17 were created by the same ghoul. Although it appears his account may now be defunct.

  14. For a while, I was creating memorials on Find a Grave at a cemetery near me that I had sort of taken on as a project to gather information about Civil War veterans buried there as well as some of the more locally famous interments that are resting there. Many of these people are long forgotten about by their ancestors, and I only added a memorial if I discovered relevant information during my research and felt creating a memorial for a person that didn’t have one was a good thing to do. I would never want to claim a memorial for myself if I am not related. Some of the ones I created brought to light relatives of those resting there and I GRATEFULLY transferred it to them. But you are right 100% about this sickening habit at Find a Grave and how it is like a game to some people. Thank you for the enlightening article and I will also be contacting Ms Liu in hopes that she makes things as they should be.

  15. Despicable and outrageous! The family members should bring suit against Ancestry.com and its officers. Only then with the accompanying negative publicity will they listen. Infliction of emotional distress, either intentional or with wanton disregard, is actionable in most states. Find-a-Grave may have given up on truth and accuracy a long time ago, to my own boundless frustration, but this clearly crosses the line. I could go on and on about the garbage and contrived entries by contributors with garbage trees, but that pales in comparison to what these people have done.

  16. First let me say that you and Judy are on fire with these blogs! I couldn’t agree more. I’ve had my share of issues with users on Find a Grave. Some experiences have been good. A couple have been mind-numbingly difficult.

    When I first started up with genealogy back in 2017, I saw that a 3rd cousin made profiles for my grandparents and my great-grandparents on the Carrabis side. Makes sense. My great-grandfather’s brother was her grandfather. That was fine and I was given control of the profiles once I messaged her.

    Then I found my grandfather on my mom’s side. At that point he was still alive and I messaged the person saying that he was. He didn’t pass away until September 2017. So, I had to fight tooth and nail to get the profile. I eventually got it and my grandmother’s profiles after much kicking and screaming.

    All was fine on Find a Grave for a while until the summer of 2020. My dad’s cousin Carol passed away and soon after someone put her profile on Find a Grave with a pic and everything. I checked with my second cousin to see if it was her father who made the profile. She said no. Her dad isn’t computer savvy. The person made profiles for her husband and son who were still very much alive. The names were on the stone. I had to fight to get that profile, too. It was crazy!

    It didn’t end there. I recently found that someone made a profile for my great-aunt who is still alive at 99. She has a plot next to her husband who died in 2014 but next to know info. I sent in suggestions and they were accepted but no transfer was accepted as I asked for it. I connected her to her right family but the guy just didn’t let me get the profile. No response from him or Find a Grave’s help.

    On Find a Grave I have added 48 memorials and I manage 84 at this time. The people in the pages are all connected to me in one way or another. Most are from cemeteries that are within driving distance. I don’t go out of my way to add millions of people. What I do is just add profiles for people connected to me and ask for pics if needed. That’s how a sensible person should use the site, right?

    Sadly, some people like to collect profiles. It would be a lot easier if people were to just create profiles for people they are connected to and build it up from there. That and add profiles for people who died up to maybe a month or two beforehand. Maybe three? Give the families some time to grieve. And if no one has a death date? Don’t add the profile! It’s that easy!

    Thanks for the post Roberta. I think you and Judy gave me an idea for a blog myself. =D

  17. Other than complaining to Ancestry, which is owned by an investment company, what options do we have? The owners won’t really care because so many people use the site and there are so many ads (disguised as helpful places to explore more) bringing in more money.

  18. I, like so many others, have been fighting with FindaGrave over the local “Bounty Hunter” who adds memorials as soon as they run in the local news paper. The last straw was when my mother-in-law died earlier this year. I rushed home after her death and added a memorial for her because I wanted control of it. By the next day, despite the new rules that are supposedly in place, the bounty hunter had added the photo that ra in her obit and a screen shot of the obit. After several months FindaGrave agreed to remove them but has yet to stop this person from continuing to do the same to other persons.
    To allow this to happen to the parents in Texas who lost their children to a senseless murder is beyond belief. Thank you for bringing it to our attention, hopefully we can help stop it.

    • Roberta, I didn’t know until I read your email. To say I am appalled is to say the least. We all have been grieving with these 19 children’s parents, families and friends. How could Ancestry/Find A Grave do this? This type of actions are not what we as the genealogy community is about. I am sorry to say when Ancestry was sold this last time I did not have a good feeling. Even though I have enjoyed most of the upgrades, etc that has been made to Ancestry, I do not condone this type of action. This certainly explains some of the Find A Grave’s postings recently that have little or no information. If the whole “game” is to have more than anyone else new listings to receive points with no substance, then this will make Find A Grave obsolete. Even as in this case they creator has more information, they should be respectful of the public, family, friends. Thank you for you email, I would never have known. Mary Jen

  19. Oh, I got Ancestry as an ad on Instagram yesterday.

    I ranted my little heart out as a response to them.

    I think I need to go find a tweet to reply to!

  20. TKU for the info. There is also another issue of people (grave hunters) adding memorial for those who preplanned their burials and have a headstone with only a birth date. My brother in law was one of them. After he passed I went to add a memorial only to find he had one?? Really he had just passed. The person who set up the memorial would not transfer it to me. So I went to Find a Grave, with absolutely not help from them.
    I set up my own memorial ( yes I know your not suppose too). Tough I did so and he finally transferred his to me after 3 years.
    Ancestry has become a Octopus with long tunicles.

    • I had a similar experience. The person set a memorial up for my brother based on my Dad’s obit. Information was wrong. I sent them a message & wanted it transferred to me but mo response. So I did my own memorial for him with correct information. I complained to Find a Grave & no response or action taken. Frustrating!

  21. Non-Family members should not be allowed to post memorials for a set time,at least one year. I would prefer thta non-family members not be allowed to post a memorial at all. I do not see, though, how this could be regulated. I find it shocking to find a family memorial that has been posted by a complete, unrelated stranger. I would prefer that non-family members not be allowed to post memorials at all. I do realize though that in some cases there are no living family members available to post memorials. Close family griends might do this but, how do you regulate who can post and who can’t? How do we decide what length of time we should wait before a non-family member (often a complete stranger) can post. Peronally, I would prefer that only family members be allowed to post. That might prevent posts by unrelated people, people who never knew or even met the deceased.

  22. This is an example of the few ruining it for the many. I would be in favor of simply banning any profile creations with no date of death or with a date of death less than 3-5 years. It’ll slow down genealogy – but who in genealogy routinely searches for the recently deceased on Find a Grave?

  23. Thank you for your email. I actually didn’t know this was happening. I have been a long time photographer for Find-A-Grave and I go out to local cemeteries to take requested photos of gravestones. On occasion I have put in BIOs for people who passed away a long time ago using their obituary for documentation. When I forget to credit the original source I get a slap on the wrist from Find-a-Grave.They won’t post it until I have edited the BIO. I am also asked my relationship to the deceased when I post a BIO. It would be very easy to train the AI who reads new entries to stop entries like the ones you mention. Your suggestions are excellent.

    • Thank you for the service you provide to genealogists and those of us who don’t live close.

  24. Thank you for bringing this to our attention, Roberta! I have also had similar issues with FindAGrave, but didn’t realize how rampant it was, or that the insensitive ghouls are creating memorials so quickly. I recently added a memorial for a cousin, only to discover that someone else had created a memorial for him, with inaccurate information. I contacted FindAGrave and asked them to delete the other memorial, as I was a family member and had correct information. Well, they “researched” the issue and deleted my memorial instead because the other one had been created first. I had started adding memorials with photos and other information and linking the memorials to make it easier for my non-genealogist family members to look at the family tree, but I’m seriously considering whether I want to continue adding any memorials.

  25. Thank you for posting this information. After reading this, I contacted the owners of my grandparents memorials and all of them have been quickly transferred to me. My question is – should I send a thank you message to them? I want to encourage them to do this for others.

    • I wish Ancestry Findagrave would make this easier. When I have wanted to thank a contributor, I was discouraged by all the steps it would take to do it.

  26. Today I cannot get findagrave.com to remove ‘memorial’ for my relative who is a convicted child molester! and someone actually left a paint brush??? as a remembrance on his page, really, you want to acknowledge a child molester?
    originally i put this memorial here and bio tells story of why:’only for reference, not intended as ‘memorial’. i thought that said it all.
    then, it was deleted and now i see recently someone (not a family member to my knowledge) has put it up again and it say ‘merged’. why/how did it get merged??
    i asked that it be removed saying it’s offensive to me and was told “it’s not offensive, everyone needs to be remembered, good or bad”.
    this site is a joke and i will be deleting all my memorials, which you have to ‘request’. guess findagrave owns, not me!!
    frankly, i am schocked at the response from ‘support’ at this site.

  27. Originally Find-A-Grave was to verify someone that was buried, actually there in the cemetery. To have a record of what was in a cemetery as a reference for those that couldn’t travel there; and usually for graves that were old, not new. Visual historical reference.

    Sad, horrific it has turned into a free-for-all. Kind of like co-op trees, we now have co-op cemeteries, with all the errors that go with it.

    I guess this is the danger of our digital age – everyone is just disconnected from immediate emotional feedback that would normally happen otherwise.

    We also have to keep in mind that people would not be doing this without a personal reward. Our society is changing due to technology, and now we see the results that not all of it is good.

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